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If you want to know more about scientific findings of good relationships and EFT as well as how couples therapy works, I can recommend you the following books and videos:
EFT Book Recommendations
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love SUSAN M. JOHNSON.
„Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond.
This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship -- from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogue" to "Revisiting a Rocky Moment" -- and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations.
Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.“
An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us
VERONICA KALLOS-LILLY & ELISABETH VORSPOH.
„This workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It is recommended for use with couples pursuing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It closely follows the course of treatment and is designed so that clinicians can easily integrate guided reading and reflections into the therapeutic process. The material is presented in a recurring format: Read, Reflect, and Discuss. Readings help couples look at their relationship through an attachment lens, walking them through the step-by-step process of creating a secure relationship bond. 33 Reflections invite readers to engage with the material personally, expanding their own awareness and ability to tune into their partner. Discussion sections suggest relationship-building exercises and a framework for conversations that promote safety, disclosure, and engagement. Case examples, along with informative illustrations, are scattered throughout the book to validate, illustrate, and inspire couples along their journey. Clinicians conversant with EFT can use this workbook to extend the effectiveness of their work with couples by giving them structured tasks to work on between sessions. For clinicians training in EFT, the book can guide them in staying focused on the EFT roadmap and illuminate how important change events unfold..“
The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships SUE M. JOHNSON.
„The bestselling author of Hold Me Tight presents a revolutionary new understanding of why and how we love, based on cutting-edge research.
Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love sense" -- our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.
Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival. Love Sense covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, Love Sense will change the way we think about love..“
Knowing is not enough, we must apply,
Willing is not enough, we must do.
JOHANN WOLFGANG VON GOETHE
EFT AUF VIDEO
In the Video below, Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, describes in her own words the essence of this couple therapy appraoch:
Latest research has shown that our need for attachment extends from the cradle to the grave. Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Edward Tronick, a developmental psychologist known for his research on early childhood attachment dynamics between mother and child, present together important research results. These are echoed in emotionally-focused couples therapy.
Love makes sense: from childhood to adulthood ..
TO BE HUMAN IS TO NEED OTHERS, AND THIS IS NO FLAW OR WEAKNESS.
Dr Sue Johnson
In the following video, you see Dr. Sue Johnson showing EFT in action in form of a couple session:
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